So how do we deal with disappointment in our children and our students? Indulge me for a moment as I reflect also as a parent., I know how much I want my child to succeed in whatever she puts her mind too but at the same time I know there will be disappointment. Often I will want to carry my daughter’s bag from the car to school because I want to be Dad. But it must not be habit.
I know there will be times when I cannot understand why she didn’t make it, why she didn’t get it, why she didn’t win, but at the same time I don’t want her to feel she always should. I want her to realize that it doesn’t come down to life being unfair, but rather that we cannot get everything we put our minds and hearts to.
Some parents think that everybody should win a prize. That it is not healthy for us to “do” this to children and I would agree with them if the students were forced to participate, but they are not. In school there is such a fear of disappointment and having our students fail. We shield them from sadness and anything where they might not succeed, but at what cost? We cannot shield them forever, we cannot control life and other people. I think this build resilience. So why not help them through disappointing situations instead? Why not have mini situations where we can help them process their feelings and give our students our children tools they can use later in life as well. Why not be role models rather than bubble creators? Why not let them fail and then learn from that?
Apologies for the haphazardness today. Promise to be on the wagon tomorrow.